On Monday, November 3rd,
Project Unbreakable presented at UMASS Amherst and Laura Penney, our Community Engagement Coordinator,
had the honor of being asked to speak at the event. If you have not
heard of Project Unbreakable before, here is a little information:
The mission of Project Unbreakable is to increase awareness of
the issues surrounding sexual assault, child abuse, and domestic
violence, and encourage the act of healing through art.
Created in October of 2011 by then 19 year old photographer Grace
Brown, Project Unbreakable originally featured photos of sexual assault
survivors holding posters with quotes from their attackers. In
September, Project Unbreakable expanded to include photos from survivors
of child abuse and domestic violence. Originally, Project Unbreakable
was supposed to stay small – the main intention was to simple create
awareness – but soon it was discovered that it provides a way of healing
for violence survivors. Since the conception, Project Unbreakable has
featured over four thousand photographs, both photos taken by Grace and
submissions from all over the world.
We encourage you to
visit their website, but also want to give a strong warning
because while the images are incredible powerful, they can also be also
very difficult to see. Please reach out to a counselor or hotline if
you need to talk at any point.
Below is the transcript of the speech given at the event:
“Thank you so much for having me here tonight. I have been a huge
fan of the work the Project Unbreakable has been doing for some time
now, and feel truly honored to be at this event. I’m also very excited
to have been given the opportunity to speak a bit about the work that my
agency, Safe Passage, is also doing to give folks in the community a
voice to speak out to prevent sexual and domestic violence. As I
prepared to speak this evening, I spent some time looking at the
countless photos on the Project Unbreakable website. Photos of amazing
individuals who were sharing their stories and proving their strength to
the world. These powerful images drew me in and I found myself
connecting to each person who help up a sign and bravely told the world
about their experience.
Reading over the words that had been spoken to each of the survivors
was very difficult. It is always hard to see the ways that humans harm
one another. Additionally, many of us don’t hear these stories
regularly, because when it comes to sexual and domestic violence
specifically, silence around experience is often the result. Speaking
out, telling our stories as survivors is such a profound process, and
can be a huge contribution to our own healing journeys. It also
connects us with other survivors, letting us know we are not alone.
For as long as I can remember, I have been a feminist. And for as
long as I can remember, I have been quite outspoken about that fact.
Maybe growing up with a strong mother had something to do with it. Or
maybe it has just been navigating the world we live in as a
self-identified woman. Or maybe it is because of my own identity as a
survivor of domestic and sexual violence. Or all of the above. And
then some. Who knows, really? Whatever the reasons, I have consistently
found myself entrenched in the issues of women’s rights, sexual
assault, and domestic violence from an early age.
And that’s how I
found myself at Safe Passage. For those of you who may not know, Safe
Passage is Hampshire County’s domestic violence agency. We are based in
downtown Northampton. We have counseling and advocacy services for
adults and children, support groups, a 24-hour hotline, legal advocacy,
and an emergency shelter among many other services. We are a small
agency, but we serve many.
The work that my coworkers do every day saves lives. They help
people plan out how to keep themselves and their children safe when they
are facing danger in their home. Homes. Which should be the safest
place for each of us. I have seen people transform when they find
safety and are allowed the space to heal; I witness compassion and
fortitude and resourcefulness, but most of all strength in the folks
that come through our doors every day. This work is so important, so
necessary. But I would like to imagine a world where it’s not
necessary. Where events like this aren’t commemorating lives lost, or
raising awareness around an issue that effects so many and is still a
tremendous social issue, but are showings of solidarity and support to
maintain communities that are free of violence.
At Safe Passage, I am the Community Engagement Coordinator. The work
that I do on a daily basis is educating folks on the information and
skills they need to become active agents of change. To help prevent
violence in our communities. Our prevention program, Say Something,
operates on one simple belief: that no matter who we are, what roles we
play, who we come in contact with, each of us has the opportunity and
ability to Say Something in our everyday lives that will help prevent
interpersonal violence.
We know that one of the main tactics that abusers use to maintain
their control is isolation; from friends, family, any sort of support
network. They use isolation because it is difficult to speak out, seek
help, and/or change your situation if you do not have the social
supports. This work, the work to end domestic and sexual violence, is
also often isolating. We often feel alone in our thoughts, feelings,
experiences, and desires for a different kind of world. I don’t know
about you folks, but I have, on more than one occasion been the only one
in a group speaking up about the inappropriate joke that has been told,
or the uncomfortable statement just said, but of course was not meant,
because “I was only kidding”.
The importance of community is paramount in this work. And that is
what we try to provide with Say Something. The proof that you are not
alone in this world, feeling the way you do. That there are people all
over who have had their own experiences and are committed to ending
sexual and domestic violence. And while I scrolled through the Project
Unbreakable Tumblr, that’s exactly the same feeling I had. Seeing the
strength and solidarity that comes with speaking out and Saying
Something. It’s truly powerful.
The statements that really jumped out at me on the website weren’t
the things that were said during an assault, but the supportive words
from friends, family, new partners, and community members that were so
important to hear for many folks. This just further instills in me the
importance of educating our communities to Say Something. Not only to
interrupt violence when we see it, but to know what to say when
responding to someone who discloses.
When we first developed the Say Something program at our agency, I
put up this big board in the front of the office that said “Say
Something…” and invited everyone who came to our office—staff,
volunteers, clients, community members – to finish the sentiment. The
visual of this was truly breathtaking. And if you want to see what the
final product looks like, you can always visit our
facebook or
website. But here are some of the examples of the contributions:
Say Something:
• You may have been afraid to say this morning
• Loving
• True
• Because others may not be able to
• And you could change a life
• Hopeful
• Comforting
• And inspire others to say something too
• Encouraging
• About your experience
• Positive
• Because you have the power
• Brave
• Supportive
• About how violence has effected your life
• Amazing
• And then do something
As we all move through our daily lives, we have countless
opportunities to Say Something. If we, as a community can shift our
collective thinking to not tolerate language or behaviors that support
domestic and sexual violence, we can start to establish a new culture
where respect, tolerance, safety and love are the universal experiences
of all. That’s the vision and hope that I hold onto. And that’s the
vision and hope that I work every day towards. So, I am here tonight to
honor the survivors who have spoken out, and invite you all to Say
Something every chance you get. Become active agents for change in your
day to day lives and become part of a larger community that will not
stand for violence. Thank you all for being here and thank you for
holding this cause in your hearts."
Laura Penney is the Community Engagement Coordinator at Safe Passage and the project director of the Say Something Prevention Initiative.